Sunday, January 29, 2017

2016 'watched' list

Whenever time is appropriate and convenient, Xiao Hui and I would prefer to watch movie together in our home theatre (because watching movie from a video beamer is so cool  =D ).
Since the day Yee Chern came to the world, there will be some time until we can both go to cinema together once again.
Anyway, almost all movies I watched in 2016 I really enjoyed. Usually I am the one more picky about selecting good movie. I do not usually go by popular blockbusters. Generally I appreciate great storytelling and cinematography, usually search for deeper meaning and inspiration out of movie. To me, movie is not purely served as entertainment.
Among my 2016 list, the best highly recommended movies which impressed me the most are Spotlight (2015) , The Lobster, Nocturnal Animals and 心迷宫。Most entertaining is A Walk in the Woods (2015) ; most touching is My Love Don't Cross That River (2014) (Korean); Best Sci-Fi action movie is Train to Busan. All others I quite like, except 'Don't Breathe' I regret watching.

2016 'watched' list:
Ola Bola (watched in cinema)
我来自纽约 The Kid from the Big Apple (watched in cinema)
Suffragette (2015)
The Danish Girl (2015)
Brooklyn (2015)
山河故人
Train to Busan (Korean)
心迷宫
Me Before You
Spotlight (2015)
The Lobster
A Walk in the Woods (2015)
Right Now Wrong Then (2015) (Korean)
My Love Don't Cross That River (2014) (Korean)
Don't Breathe
Nocturnal Animals

2017 'watched' list - so far:
Your name
你的名字 (Japanese) (2016)
Between Us (2016)
Arrival

2017 Birthday statement

In the event of becoming one year older (and hopefully wiser), i want to write something about my recent self.
Last year 2016 was a dramatic year with lots of things happened to me and around me.
The biggest positive thing ever happened to me, my wife and our families is only one -- Yee Chern. He is loved and adored by so many people (even strangers), we are blessed to have him in our family. We feel lucky that he is such a good boy, far better we expected before he came to the world. Even there was a few tireless nights occasionally, we have forgotten about the incidents when he woke up with his best charming smile thereafter. On a trivial note, whenever YC was in his 'bad' days, I would usually get the brunt more from the stress he caused to his mama https://www.facebook.com/images/emoji.php/v7/f9f/1/16/1f61b.png:P Also to say, most of the times he really ‘performed’ well before our guests/friends, because we tried our best to fit best timing for him to meet you. This credit goes to YC mama. All normal and healthy babies do cry and have temper sometimes, especially when they are hungry or tired, ok?
I am glad that my wife Xiao Hui first made her decision to quit her job in Singapore moved in with me in Penang in her first trimester of pregnancy (which was then early 2016). Really want to thank her for the life-changing decision and the bold move. Life was relatively easy in Penang Island, where we lived in a comfortable and convenient area called Relau. We only moved back to the Klang Valley last October, so we spent at least 9 months in Penang living together, including a significant event and moment occurred on the 25th May https://www.facebook.com/images/emoji.php/v7/f4c/1/16/1f642.png=) So many beautiful memories I have collected in Penang for the wonderful 2.5 years living and working there. Therefore it is hard for me not talking about my Penang experience here.
Many northern Islanders very seldom passing by this place called Relau, some even regard it as a very ‘ulu’ ‘migrants haven’. Despite all the bad description which we do not agree, we really enjoyed staying there. All the major facilities are close to my old Penang place, ie. Bayan Baru market, Queensbay Mall, Airport, First & Second Penang Bridge, Tesco, etc. I appreciate the local Monday night market, where I made friends with a few vegetable vendors and a honest & chatty Kuih lapis baker from Balik Pulau. Also, the local Relau Agriculture Station and Relau Metropolitan Park I consider as the hidden gems of Relau worth visiting.
I don't think I can quite forget my balcony view ... the grand view of Bukit Jambul, I which certainly I would miss dearly in future. I had personal attachment to the hill. I was rather a frequent hiker to the 'Gazebo' peak of Bukit Jambul. I love the short hike, had even brought Yee Chern up once when he was just 4 months old. In fact, Penang hills are all in my eyes. I enjoy greenery, loathe any development that would destroy the hills.
Before Xiao Hui moved to Penang, I was also a rather frequent user of RapidPenang bus services. I really did not mind a bit of walking (1 + 2 km) and waiting. I really want to thank my colleagues for occasional drop off at the Penang general hospital for my bus. I appreciate Xiao Hui sometimes came meeting me in my Penang office area by taking RapidPenang bus, with Yee Chern still inside her womb. Public transport mode in Penang is still catering only for minority, and the bus journey from Relau to Pulau Tikus is hilly with ups and downs, bumpy sometimes. Really have to praise Xiao Hui for this adventure.
I miss working with many good people in Penang, including my dear wonderful Penang Institute colleagues and friends (not all from PI though, I must stress). I had pleasant experience also working with great personals from some local Penang NGOs. Their professionalism, expertise, boundless energy and long-term commitment to good causes, really amazed me. I learned much from them. From musician, filmmaker, environmentalists to arts and cultural lovers, I share many sentiments and views with them. They truly concern and vocal about certain issues which are close to their heart. I wish to see Penang continues thriving in a sustainable development manner. The beauty of its natural heritage cannot be overstated, cannot be substituted by any mega project. Some said Penangites (read: Islanders) can easily get to hill or beach side within 10 mins car drive. I simple do not have that kind of privilege here in Klang Valley now. So Penangites should appreciate and value what they already have right now.
I really miss Penang.
The move back to Klang Valley was actually previously planned under the pipeline, just that I personally did not expect it to come that early. I saw the opportunity came knocking on my door when I could apply for a transfer back to the KL office due to timely vacancy. My wish to focus on my research works on the Malaysian healthcare policies, prompted me the move back to the heartbeat of the country where national policies are made. KL office suits me just that, with a very supportive General Manager Dr Ong Kian Ming (MP for Serdang). Finally I can make use of my research skills on issues that I am most passionate about. That will be good for my career development, as I would like to be recognised one day for policy research contribution in the health sector. In Penang, I wore too many hats, attended to many state government duties, and I had to become an all-rounder for many socioeconomic issues. Though I appreciate the experience I gained and I had met many experts from different fields along the way, unfortunately that could not be a long term goal for me.
What makes the transition back to the KL office goes so smoothly is my nice colleagues and friends in this tiny KL office. They are very accommodating and supportive. Just within 3 months, I have produced some research works and turned some into press statements. Definitely I feel more productive, positive and upbeat here in the KL office. Fortunate enough, I share many common interests with my new colleagues here, be it food, hiking and games. Furthermore, now we have a very interactive common collaborative workspace environment in Uppercase Bangsar, I really enjoy working here. I make it a habit of taking public transport to work whenever possible, ie. ride LRT, combine with cycling and walking.
My hope and resolution for this year: 
In terms of family, for sure I want to see Yee Chern growing up happily and healthily. I will do my best spending more meaningful time with him, learn to sing and play more new songs, develop new interesting acts & tricks that keep him amused, read more books to him, bring him out more to explore the world. 
For Xiao Hui, I will try to make use of available time at home to share the household duties burden, also wish to have more time to do things we enjoy doing together, eg. watching movie at home. Hopefully we can make it for a long trip together as a family of 3 to the Trumpland to find Uncle Macha this year.
In terms of work, I hope to complete some of my healthcare policy research projects, hopefully publish a few papers (in whatever format), and engage the public to share my findings and thoughts about the current status and future of our Malaysian healthcare.
I also wish to make a few work or leisure trips to Penang this year. I am sure my friends in Penang would be equally joyous to meet me and my family too. It is okay to indulge in reminiscence sometimes, for the time being Penang to me is my second home in Malaysia https://www.facebook.com/images/emoji.php/v7/f4c/1/16/1f642.png=) Don’t forget Yee Chern is a Penang Lang.
In terms of personal fitness, I have a target to keep my weight below 80kg (which I did last year), and reduce further 5kg if possible. Go for weekend badminton training consistently; hike more hills around the region; occasionally join the weekly yoga (free) session in my workplace; cycle more to LRT station for work, cycle to car ratio should go higher than 70:30.

This year 2017 is highly likely to be a general election year. Though I know it is highly improbable event for the opposition coalition to win, given the current sociopolitical climate and circumstances. Still, I hope to see the fall of UMNO-BN as the ruling party for the Federal government. I do not want to just see the change of hands in government but reform agenda must take place to strengthen our institutions, liberate our society and make Malaysia a progressive, just and fair country for all.

2017生日聲明

就趁人生經歷與歲月+1之際,總結去年的自己。2016年是多事之秋的一年很多事情發生未必是壞事,壞事也未必發生在我身上。
對我,曉慧和家人來說,去年最大亮點就只有一個:林禹丞。他實在太討人歡喜乃至大街上好多陌生人都主動大獻殷勤。他的出現,讓我們一家帶來歡樂,真好。我們也有點慶幸他基本上是個乖乖仔。即使偶有幾個疲憊夜晚,只要他一早醒來後使出他的招牌天真無牙笑臉,我們又忘卻了昨晚的勞苦。順便一提,一旦禹丞不合作鬧情緒,基本上我就遭殃了因為媽媽會被他弄得精神緊張而連累到我,呵呵。還有啊,他在我們的親朋戚友前表現良好,功勞都歸他媽盡力準備安排較好的時間讓你們見到他。在不對的時間點遇到餓和累的baby,他會哭鬧是正常的,ok? 所以,你們看到的是真相,但不是真相的全部!
我很慶幸曉慧去年初決定辭退在新加坡的工作搬過來檳城與我同住。那時是她懷孕的首三月。感激她作出勇敢的重大決定。我們在檳島上的生活其實還蠻輕鬆寫意的。我們就住在一個舒適方便的山腳下地區叫湖內(RELAU)。直到去年十月我們才舉家搬回巴生谷,我們一起在檳城住了至少9個月。其中一個生命中最重大的時刻就發生在525日的早晨。如此多的美好記憶,我享受過去在檳城2年半的生活和工作經驗。所以,在此我很難不分享我的檳城體驗,呵呵。
其實很多北部(檳)島人極少取道來到湖內這個美麗的地方。有些人存偏見,覺得這是個相當偏僻的外勞天堂。這些標籤我們都不太認同,我們挺喜歡那裡的喲。連那裡的外勞都友善親切、衛生過本地人。主要的設施都蠻靠近我的舊檳城住址,其中包括峇央峇魯菜市場、皇后灣商場、國際機場、第一和第二檳威大橋,特易購商場等。我最愛的是每週一的道地夜市場。與我打交道慣了的菜販和來自浮羅山背的蛋糕師傅,我們都見面歡交了朋友。還有,道地的湖內農業公園(Relau Agriculture Station)和城市公園(Relau Metropolitan Park)是值得一去窺探拜訪的湖內景點休閒處。
其中一個讓我難以忘懷的是陽台景色--武吉詹姆的壯麗山景。我對武吉詹姆有情感。我曾是該山的登山常客,愛爬上頂峰的瞭望台站。在禹丞大約4月大左右,我們已把他帶上去過了。其實,檳城的山林景色盡入我眼,特別珍惜和享受綠蔥蔥的山林,所以對任何山丘發展帶來的破壞會特別反感厭惡難容忍。
在曉慧未搬來檳城之前,我也曾是快捷檳城(RapidPenang)巴士的常戶。我并不介意費些腳力走一小段路程(1+2公里)然後等候巴士。我感謝我的好心同事們偶爾送我一程到檳城大醫院的巴士站等車。我也感激曉慧偶爾專程搭乘巴士來到我的辦事處,當時禹丞還在媽媽的肚裡。公共交通在檳城還是少數人的交通選擇。從湖內到浮羅池滑的巴士路途一路崎嶇,偶爾有坑洞高低不平。
說真的,我想念與好多人在檳城一起共事的日子,包括我棒棒噠的檳城研究院同事朋友們(但不是每一個人啦,在此聲明)。我也曾與一些道地的檳城非政府組織成員合作。他們的專業精神、歷練、無窮的精力和長期的認真投入堅持他們的信念,真的讓我大開眼界、欽佩不已。這些社運活躍份子從音樂人、畫家、紀錄片攝影人、環保份子至藝術和文化愛好份子,在很多課題的立場我們都有共識。他們由衷熱切關心一些課題,願意為他們的立場挺身而出仗義執言。我希望看到的檳城是可持續性發展的地方。檳城大自然遺產的美,非筆墨可形容,更不可被任何的大型基建計劃替代。有人說檳島人很幸運,可以用大約10分鐘的車程就能到山林或海邊,非常方便。現在在巴生谷的我,沒此待遇。檳城人得珍惜。
我真的很想念檳城。
搬回來巴生谷這事其實本已有所計劃,只是本身沒想到居然比預期地提早落實了。機會來到我的門前,我就趕緊捉住申請調職到吉隆坡分院,因為當時發現到恰好有空缺。一直以來我期望能更集中地研究我國的公共衛生醫護政策,調職回來這裡正合我意,因為國家政策都是由中央制定的,而吉隆坡是全國的心臟地帶。
最重要的是我有個挺我、支持我的研究方向的總經理王建民博士(他是沙登區國會議員)。終於我可以把我的研究技巧運用在我熱衷的課題上,這有助於我的事業發展。有天我也想被人認可我在公共衛生方面的貢獻建樹。在檳城我身兼多份大大小小的任務,無形中被要求成為各個社會經濟課題的通才。縱然這些累積的經驗和我有幸碰面見識的各領域專才對我來說是可貴的,但這不可能是我長期的事業目標。
讓我回巢感到最順心的是我的這個小小辦公室的好同事朋友們。他們都待我很好,常幫助和支持我。在短短的三個月內,我已完成了一些研究工作,有些還寫成文告向外發表了。我覺得搬回來後我更有生產力和正面的動力。奧妙的是,我與新同事友人都很搭得上,擁有共同興趣愛好譬如說食物鑒賞,登山運動和益智遊戲等。再說,目前我們的辦公室已遷移至孟沙的Uppercase。那是個以共享活動空間環境概念建設的辦公室,設施一流。我真的享受目前在這裡的工作生活。此外,我漸漸習慣搭乘公共交通工具去上班,通常結合腳車和步行。
總的來說,今年我的展望如下:
家庭而言,我當然希望看到禹丞快樂健康地成長。我盡量挪出時間來陪伴他成長:學多一些新歌彈唱給他、想出一些新穎的點子/樂子來逗他開心、對他朗讀更多的繪本,帶他去探索外面的世界。
給我老婆曉慧,我會確保在家的時間幫忙你分擔家務,同時花多點時間相處做我們共同喜愛的事,比如說在家一起看電影。期待今年我們可以全家三口一起出遊到Trumpland去找Macha叔叔。
公事上,我期望在今年可以完成一些主要的公共衛生政策研究計劃,然後發表研究心得與公眾分享。
我希望今年可以回去檳城多幾趟,無論是為了工作或休閒敘舊。我的朋友們一定樂見其成(我們到時相約見面!)。讓我偶爾懷舊一下總ok吧,我已把檳城當成是我在國內的第二個家。別忘了禹丞是檳城人。=D
個人健康方面,我最低目標是維持體重在80公斤以下(去年做到了),如果能夠減多5公斤就太好了。週末我要持續地訓練羽球;在本區域內攀行更多山強身健體;偶爾參與辦公室每週免費舉辦的瑜伽課程;多騎腳車(去輕快鐵站)上班,對比開車到站的頻率應高於70:30

今年2017年極可能是大選年。我明白依目前的政治局勢,反對陣線聯盟能贏得大選的機會微乎其微。可是我仍期待看到國陣-巫統的崩盤,替換掉聯邦政府。我不希望看到換了人屁股坐上去政府後,腦袋還是一樣。所以對我來說,改革制度必須優先:加強我們的制度機構,鬆綁/自由化我們的社會枷鎖,勢必要把馬來西亞推向一個(思想)進步(progressive),全民公正的國家。

Saturday, December 24, 2016

第4份信:寫在7個滿月前夕的平安夜

禹丞,
為了配合你的7個滿月生日和即將來臨你的首個聖誕節,這是粑粑寫給你的第四封信。(事實上,粑粑因忙碌而錯過寫給你半歲生日的祝賀)。
你的可愛吸睛魅力和受歡迎度,不用我多說,從大家對你的興趣和讚美已足矣。幾乎所有粑粑麻麻的親戚朋友們都愛提起你、想見你、抱你和斗你玩。你在他們面前一般都表現得很不錯,開朗笑容有加,深得他們的心。或許你見到新人而充滿好奇和新鮮感,對嗎?你的惡魔那一面通常都只留給粑粑麻麻,尤其是近來你的作息方式和時間讓粑粑麻麻操勞了(其實更多時候在深夜里都是麻麻在撐住,粑粑早就不行了)。比較棘手的是,最近發覺你是淺睡者,任何外面的風吹草動聲音都會干擾或驚動已入睡的你。所以,粑粑麻麻要進房間時都不得躡手躡腳步步為營,開關燈或門都得小心翼翼,深怕一不小心就吵醒了你。
目前是你快速成長的時期,我才發現不過短短的幾個月,你又變了樣!我昨天才抵達你麻麻的新加坡老家,被告知你已可以獨立無需支撐地自己坐著了。哇,才5天不見,你的功力又升級了,粑粑為你感到驕傲!還有啊,你那天跟麻麻首次飛行,全程除了喃喃自語以外你竟然沒有哭鬧,這個記錄真的很了不起!
由於你是稍微早產兒,你的體型體重比起同齡生偏輕。粑粑麻麻從沒擔心過,因為你至今都很健康和精靈。麻麻在你接近半歲大時就讓你試吃固體食物,你還真的很嘴饞貪吃!幾乎什麼都吃目前你最愛吃的有梨、蘋果,鱷梨果和魚粥。金瓜、紅蘿蔔、莧菜、香蕉、木瓜等,你都吃了。為了方便麻麻為你的食物準備,粑粑特地買了一台食物處理機,麻麻說很有用哦!這樣你就可以盡情地吃了,然後快高長大!
我很開心你特別愛跟粑粑玩。可能因為粑粑比較癲,動作聲音比較誇張和幼稚,所以適合你口味,呵呵(即使再誇張幼稚,我也是蠻創意的,ok?)。粑粑的拿手把戲是唱兒歌比手語。粑粑也開始給你接觸書本啦 給你摸和玩兒童硬皮繪本。那天緒莊叔叔才跟粑粑講解了很多有關兒童繪本的知識。
九月尾時,粑粑麻麻忙著打包收拾搬家,從檳城搬回梳邦。我們真的很感激你的全程配合。那個過程基本上還算蠻順利。隨後,你也得跟隨粑粑麻麻物色添購家具和用品。跑了幾圈,花了不少錢,最後終於家也開始像個家,差不多該有的都有了。我們一開始還擔心你不能適應,其實還好啦。你應該不會懷念檳城舊家的陽台外景吧?粑粑其實還有點想念,雖然梳邦新家的外景也還可以至少還有點綠。
別擔心粑粑平時騎腳車上班,粑粑會小心的。同時粑粑也得鍛煉身體保持健康,以後才有精力配合漸漸長大(變重)的你,把你抱上抱下陪你玩。年紀漸大的粑粑,若不趁現在保持或改變身形,以後就更難控制了。
好啦,粑粑就寫到這裡。我們一家三口也祝大家聖誕節快樂!(你的叔叔和阿嫲還在泰國蘇梅島玩樂慶祝呢 xD

粑粑

24.12.2016 (平安夜)

Friday, November 11, 2016

US Presidential Election and Pakatan Harapan

The US presidential result you already know, many
analyses you might have already came across, so I waste no time here.
What I find relevant is the observation of low voter turnout on the US polling day… 46.9% reported not voting.
This trend of lower voter turnout is actually also a current issue plaguing our opposition coalition here in Malaysia for the past 2 years.
In the last General Election, Malaysia had achieved the record highest turnout rate: 84.8%. Due to malapportionment and Gerrymandering flaw practices by EC in our electoral system, BN managed to hang on their governance seats in Putrajaya, despite losing popular votes for the second time in history (first in 1969).
Following by-elections held after Teluk Intan (including the most recent twin-by elections in Kuala Kangsar and Sungai Besar), PR/PH’s electoral performance had been marred by lower voter turnout and less enthusiastic supporters' sentiment. Even the combined number of votes for the opposition parties still could not overcome BN's.
What caused more than 10% depressed voters decided not going to poll stations in the recent twin by-elections? Maybe the same question is also for Hillary in US -- what happened to the 5% voters missing from the poll, and another 2-3% more voters rather voting for unelectable third party candidates?
If the Democratic Party’s main campaign was to go against Trump, portrayed how bad the Republican candidate is and hope this would work to pull more people voting for their party candidate Hillary Clinton, then they know how wrong it was. Michael Moore’s pre-poll prediction is correct, the Hillary problem and depressed voters would give way to President Trump. The difference between Obama and Clinton is that, the former represented hope and vision. That actually gave impetus and reasons for voters to vote FOR him because they believe in him, rather than they voted for him because they were so disgusted with another candidate. Some might have even volunteered and campaigned for Obama. We could see less number for Clinton this time round.
Same here for Pakatan… if they do not go to ground (in rural and mixed areas) collect sufficient feedback from the middle-lower and lower-income households, find and devise good policy solutions to the general (and specific area) problems, then I imagine it would be difficult for Pakatan parties to urge fence-sitting voters coming out to vote for them (don’t even mention to convert BN supporters). Banging BN probably will be same old tunes to many voters' ears, that would not be enough to deliver the crucial winning votes.
Many would want to hear more fresh and coherent ideas from Pakatan, and how Pakatan's vision and policies could be different. Whether or not Pakatan wants to admit it… in the last GE, their manifesto was populist and their policy proposals were too-urban centric (eg. abolish tolls, lower car price). As far as I understood, there was also no serious policy research done before drafting out the manifesto and policy framework… will Pakatan Harapan be any different next time? I worry.

BN always hold two sets of strong cards in ‘racial’ and ‘religious’ identity, does Pakatan have good, consistent, coherent and clear counter-arguments that could win hearts and minds for all (if not most) Malaysians, or at least stop the lingering doubts about Pakatan's stand? Vagueness would not instill confidence for many voters.
On socioeconomic, sustainable development and environmental issues, can Pakatan distinguish themselves from BN policies? The current two PH-governed states have to show good examples so to convince voters that their actions are actually consistent with what they promised before.
With the Bersih 5 rally date approaching, the general public enthusiasm is still quite dampening at this time point. This signifies the change of public sentiment and it is very telling even for civil society.
Will our opposition coalition also suffer from the ‘Hillary problem’ – too much political baggage, lack vision and direction (besides united to defeat BN in one-on-one fights – most voters wouldn't even care), too elitist until stay out of touch with grassroots’ daily life concerns?
With the next general election will likely be called within 2 years, Pakatan Harapan must present and sell ‘HOPE’ to general masses, as much as they claim themselves representing ‘Harapan’. No use just talking about power-grabbing and seat-arrangement strategies. Lower voter turnout will dent their hope in Putrajaya even further. If that is the case, poor Anwar would have to suffer in the jail for longer period.

Monday, November 07, 2016

Goodbye O'shirts and pants

Finally, I have to sort out my closet, since I tend to have the inertia not to throw or donate away my old shirts and pants mostly due to nostalgia reason and denial syndrome that one day I can still fit in those clothes...
Well, seems like I cannot afford to be too sentimental, 'cause space is limited.
In the end, rationality took place... with my wife's critical comments added weight, I have to do what is necessary...decided to throw away many with wrong size, wrong fashion/style, too old, etc.
Dear O'shirts and pants, if you are 'I am a shirt/ pair of pants' in the typical primary school Karangan , please do not write too harsh on me...

Saturday, September 03, 2016

第三封信:100天誕辰

禹丞:

孩子,你又長大了!恭喜你跨入第100天。比起2個月前的你,現在你已是個大baby了,個子和體重都有明顯增加。最讓粑粑麻麻欣慰的是,你真的很乖很好照顧。麻麻說,你看到外面天黑和聽到穆斯林祈禱聲(waktu Maghrib)時,就會鬧著要抹身喝奶,然後大概在晚上9點前就入寢。通常就這樣一睡就睡到凌晨4、 5 點早上,粑粑麻麻不用太勞累而有充足素質睡眠。你有這樣的睡覺紀律,真是謝天謝地啊!

現在的你是個愛笑的baby。你不怕陌生人,每每會專注‘定定地’看著人的表情動作和聽人講話。你甚至會偶爾發出一些聲音回應他人,好厲害哦!粑粑麻麻帶你出外時,你常常引起安哥安娣的注意,他們都稱讚你好可愛喔!還有一些哥哥姐姐要逗你玩!

昨天你第一次出國,來到了麻麻的kampung(雖然檳城移民廳的人說新加坡哪裡有kampung)。之前為了你出國,粑粑麻麻得費勁弄你一本護照,怎知恰好卡在政府發出誤導性消息說護照短缺,結果導致一大堆人擠爆移民廳更新護照。粑粑麻麻為了要幫你弄張好看的護照大頭照,找了攝影店的攝影師,最後卻只能把你弄成那樣子(遲點才讓大家看看你的首張正式大頭照),我們倆啼笑皆非。

很快地,你得適應新環境了。你出生以來居住的檳島公寓雖然山林景色依舊壯麗,我們一家人得在月底搬走離開,回到你老粑的家鄉梳邦-巴生谷。粑粑申請遷移至吉隆坡的辦公室繼續做個政策研究員,已獲得批准了。不止是你,麻麻也得適應新家、新城市和新環境。是的,檳城住家真的太方便了,便利店、餐廳、髮廊、工具店、診所等全部通通都在樓下。以後在梳邦,如果粑粑不能載麻麻出去,她就得學會開車,或招車來去購買用品和食物。但對我們一家來說,以後我們更靠近你阿嫲家,麻麻要返回職場將有更多選擇。粑粑想要繼續研究國家政策,巴生谷一帶會是日後事業發展的重心地。我們相信,你會歡樂無憂地在粑粑麻麻呵護教導下在那裡健康成長。

檳城已是粑粑在國內的第二個家,我們有機會一定會回去看看。粑粑到時應該也會想念在檳城居住的生活時光。粑粑在檳城的兩年半里,盡心盡力為檳城貢獻和付出,以確保它能有個平衡可持續性的發展。檳城擁有兩個最讓人心迷和珍惜的部分,即文化遺產和大自然環境,粑粑有用心出力去維護。所以,粑粑問心無愧面對檳州納稅人,因為他們是我的老闆。回到來梳邦,粑粑仍會繼續關注檳城,只因我的朋友‘兄弟姐妹們’都還在那里。粑粑在檳城時認識了很多很棒的良師益友,豐富了人生。或許以後,當你有機會回到來這裡生活的時候,希望你仍能欣賞到檳城最美的一面,認識這裡熱情友善正直的人。

寫到這裡,粑粑要去選你的照片了哦!希望你明天你在百日party見到許多麻麻的親朋戚友時,能從容微笑面對和招待,辛苦你了。你餓了,粑粑會餵奶(瓶)給你!

粑粑
寫於2016年9月2日

Saturday, August 27, 2016

Housework

To me, doing housework is not just work or duty. It is responsibility, not something money can buy.
I might not clean, wash or mop as clean as a professional cleaner; I might not cook as good as a chef out there, but I am proud to do that for my family.
Unlike professional cleaner or maid who does the job for money, when I do housework I make sure I put my heart in, because I care and I value the works contributing directly to my family. I want the house feel hygiene, tidy, clean and comfortable , i want the food to be yummy yet healthy, etc.
At home, XH and I almost practise 'meritocracy' and preference... there is no fixed women's or men's jobs at home, we just figure out what is best each can do. So, the 'division of labour' goes according to ability and preference but not along the gender line. No paksa, only rela.
I cook, because XH thinks that I cook better (and I also enjoy cooking). She sews, because I am really chor lor and lunzhun, can't handle tiny things (and she thinks she is better too). We clean using different methods at different time. We wash dishes depending on who is more free at that particular time.
House belongs to the members who live in. Everyone has responsibility to take care of one's home. I was 'trained' to do housework when I was young. I learned to be independent when I was abroad. Do housework is just essential life skills, both genders should learn, no excuse. For sure, I would train my kids to do housework when they grow up.
I also find that, when doing housework yourself, you train yourself to be humble. You would appreciate but not look down on cleaners who also sweat for doing their job for the communities.
The way I see is, housework should not be difficult things to do, both men and women should be capable of doing the same set of housework. So, gender equality should start from home. Do not let anyone tell you that you should (or should not) do certain housework just because you are woman (or man). Tradition can be changed. Respect housework duties and responsibilities.

Wednesday, July 20, 2016

給孩子的第二封信(7月7日)

禹丞:

這是老爸寫給你的第二封信。對不起,老爸還真的很忙,你的正滿月那天來不及抽空寫給你。

明天是你的滿月派對,到時將會有很多親戚朋友來看你!(還有,明天也是你老媽的生日哦)粑粑今天順利且小心開車把你和麻麻載回梳邦,你粑粑的老家啦!你一路上都睡得好,很乖。

你現在不是半個,而已是整個檳城人了...因為你的MyKid身份證上顯示的出生州屬號碼是07,呵呵。告訴你一個秘密...爸爸媽媽堅決把你的宗教信仰那欄放空為Tiada Agama (無宗教) ,因為我們相信你有自由和權利在未來選擇(或不選擇)自己的宗教。宗教是你個人的信仰,必須日後在深思熟慮和深度認知後自己決定,我們不插手。爸爸媽媽也沒給你掛任何前頭(prefix)的英文名,需不需要日後由你自己決定....你可以叫David或Jeremy,Donald或Bernie,我們不太在乎,因為在家里我們還是會叫你禹丞(或有時交替叫你ah Boy)。

謝謝你這個月來的耐心和乖巧,讓我這位新手粑粑戰戰兢兢、小心翼翼地照顧你。向大家報告,我已會為你換尿片、洗澡換衣、喂瓶裝母奶、唱歌哄你入睡等技能,我還在努力學習做你的好粑粑,ok?

我還得感謝你母親對你的細心呵護。我很佩服她,因為她堅持差不多每兩三個小時就喂你母奶一次。她已超過一個月沒有持續睡超過6小時了。你以後一定要感謝(感恩)媽媽,知道嗎?因為她的堅持,你才健康快樂成長。看你現在精靈可愛的模樣且短小精悍的身軀,感覺到你充滿頑強生命力和巨大潛能,我們倆的付出一切都很值得。慶幸的是,你真的很乖巧,很能適應環境。

當初你得黃疸病時,我們在家把你放在藍光燈下陸陸續續地照了7天,雖然我們有點心疼,但你也沒太大的抗拒。帶你去Klinik Kesihatan打針驗血了不下10次,幾次後你也不怎麼大哭了。檳城大醫院的醫生說你被抽血樣本時,竟然出乎我們預料地沒哭。

見過你的親朋戚友都說喜歡你,對你讚賞有加。不管現在人家說你像誰或不像誰都好,你是我們驕傲的兒子。你真有性格,表情多多逗笑逗趣,有你是我們的幸福和歡樂。我們會好好照顧和養育你,讓你繼續成為我們的驕傲。

粑粑在這裡給大家分享一些你首個月的口愛照,以作滿月紀念,希望你不介意。禹丞,滿月快樂,粑粑愛你!

志翰

Thursday, May 26, 2016

給我孩子禹丞的信

孩子,
歡迎來到這世界。我是你爸,第一次寫信給你。和你媽一樣,我們興奮同時又緊張(不過當然你媽要承受更大的痛苦把你帶來這世界)。你媽很厲害,四個小時內就把你帶來人間;接生你的黃國光醫生也是頂呱呱。
你的名字是林禹丞。我們希望你能向這位華夏歷史傳奇人物大禹看齊。你不一定需要治水,但要利用你的智慧、知識和領導協助解決世間即複雜又實在的問題。你的出生,有人說會增添地球的負擔。但你要記住,你來到這世上的意義不只為了自己和家人而活。我們期待你成為對社會有用的人--將來受他人的尊重,並不是你的榮華富貴或社會地位,而是你的人格修養和實際貢獻。
你的“丞”,除了有輔助的意思,也包含了古文中“拯救”的意思。我的同事導師黃裕端博士告訴我,這個字源自甲骨文,畫有兩隻手把人從陷阱之中救上來。我們也希望你能發揮正義感善於助人、與人守望相助一起建設國家社會。要知道,這世界絕不會圍繞你為中心而轉。你要待人以誠愛人以真,做個有禮貌值得信任的人。我們會盡力給你立下好榜樣。
我們希望能給你一個幸福的小家庭,并承諾你一個快樂健康成長的童年。除了撫養你長大,我們同時也樂意作你的導師,協助你吸取各方面的知識和學習各項生活技能。我們堅持,學習是為了充實生活、滿足自己的求知慾,并不為了考試。所以,我們對你的學業沒有特別的要求。我們承諾不會給你學習壓力,更不會要求你的考試分數如何。你必須要有上進心,為自己的未來升學和前途而努力,我們會為你分析情況但不會強迫你。倘若你有特別的天份和興趣,我們絕對支持你選擇的路。只要你做自己,我們持開放態度,不管你是什麼戀都好。(只是,如果以後有伴,記得帶回家哦,媽媽尤其關心 xD)
作為爸爸的,我會把良好的閱讀習慣傳承給你,所以我承諾多講故事給你,與你一起閱讀繪本書籍,並從書香中發掘見識這個世界。我們也會帶你多接觸大自然,讓你好好感受我們的山林、河川、海洋和公園并遊樂其中,希望你長大後也同樣像我們一樣熱愛和維護大自然的美。
我們將來會有好多好多的話要對你說。希望你在我們的照顧之下,慢慢但好好地健康快樂成長。最重要的是,我們愛你。

你的老爸,

志翰
2016年5月26日

P/s: 乖,聽媽媽的話,ok?